Contrary to popular belief, negative emotions are not bad. They are warning signals, the “tap on the shoulder” when something isn’t right.
When you have a negative emotion, it is not okay to just cover it up or put a bandaid on it. You have to go back to yourself to figure out what the problem is. Because there is a problem, that means there is some obstruction in the way of you operating at your fullest potential.
Negative emotions, like pain, are not bad- they’re good! They tell you that something isn’t right and you have to fix it- immediately or more damage will incur. Or worse, the problem will destroy its host. The problem is the parasite. The negative emotions are just the alarms. So what is the problem?
Without negative emotions we’d all just be bouncing off of each other, doing everything we wanted all the time- creating much destruction and desolation in our wake.
But modern society wants you to believe that they are bad and that they should be covered up.
There are solutions for:
It all requires though for you to go “back to yourself” to figure out what is wrong. What is the problem that is causing me to feel like this?
Covering up a problem would be like a fire alarm going off inside of a burning building and instead of putting out the fire, you go around looking for some way to turn the fire alarm off. If you want to turn the fire alarm off, put out the fire! That’s why it’s going off, because there’s a major problem and if you don’t take care of it, the building will burn to the ground! Yes it’s loud, yes it’s uncomfortable, but if you don’t do anything you will die!
Put out the fire. Then the alarm will go off.
From now on when you have a negative emotion, don’t dwell on it and make yourself feel worse. But also try not to fix it entirely through external elements. Find the root of it— Ask yourself, “Why am I feeling bad?” Go back to yourself, deeply, and find the source of the problem. Sit and think about it. Be quiet. Search for what it could be. It takes complete humbleness though. You cannot find the source of your negative emotions if your ego is in the way. Perhaps you treated someone poorly. Do you think your ego will admit to that? It takes complete honesty with yourself. Only then will you be able to find the source for it and turn off the alarm that is the negative emotions.